I skipped two weeks of posting due to nothing exciting going on and not having any time to write. No time. If you can believe that? Truthfully, I really can’t blame the inconsistent blog posts on not having any time to write. I am a firm believer that if you really want to do something you will make time for it. As we speak I am sitting on my couch watching Comic Book Men with my guy, in the middle of three loads of laundry, a load of dishes, and having just completed some homework for the week. I could have made time, so I guess my real excuses is that I didn’t think I had anything to write about. I did have two weeks of Monday’s, but they weren’t situations I could convey as some sort of comedic entertainment for this blog.
It has been a stressful couple of weeks. Lately my life has consisted of workplace computer issues and training employees, a busy school schedule and school exams as I approach the final two weeks of my term, the loss of a beloved family member, volunteering, apple picking (twice), a sister date to a Kathleen Madigan comedy show, as well as attempting to get to the gym three to four times a week. On top of all this I am either wearing myself out, or getting a really nasty cold because my energy level is depleting rapidly. Most days I live off of Kiwi Apple Redbull and coffee. Spare me the lecture about how unhealthy those substances are for me, or what alternatives I could use instead of sugary drinks. [In the words of my past 16 year-old self, “Ugh, I know, I know!” *eye-rolls*] I am losing motivation to successfully complete my responsibilities throughout the week and even though my ‘end-game’ goal is what I am working towards, some days I rely on the caffeine to keep me going.
This brings me to this week’s topic: Motivation. How ironic, right? Motivation is something I have always struggled with, but I decided to dedicate this post to discussing how to find and practice motivation because I have found steps to achieve my goals that seems to be working for me (most of the time). Maybe if I write this out, I will end up motivating myself?
Step 1: Goals
I had a professor say something that really resonated with me. He said, “If you aren’t doing something with a purpose, then why are you doing it?” I think too often we say start doing things without even knowing what we are working towards. And honestly, where does that get you? In order for me to complete ‘all the things’, I must have a purpose and that purpose translates to a goal. I used to flounder throughout my week, month, and year without having a true end goal in mind. I guess I just grew up knowing I should always stay busy. But busy for what? It didn’t really get me anywhere, and now I am sitting here at 27 years-old without a clue in the world of what I want to do when I grow up.
After listening to Rise, a podcast by Rachel Hollis, I have become more meticulous with how I set up my goals, and try to make them something to look forward to. I plan a weekly, a monthly, and a yearly goal. I do this in hopes of gaining more momentum for successfully completing my end goal. Having something to work towards is what steers my motivation. Basically, no matter how organized I am, the things I do mean nothing unless I do them with a purpose. I equate that purpose to goals, so I set up myself up to achieve those goals weekly, monthly, and yearly.
Step 2: Positivity
Once I’ve set my goals I require focus and positivity to complete them. I am a firm believer that you are who you surround yourself with, and no one can be successful on their own. Even if you consider yourself an introvert, you have someone, or something, in your life that continues to push you. And I hope it pushes you in the right direction.
I aspire to surround myself with people who push me to where I want and need to be. Since I consider myself a realist, it can be difficult to see the silver-lining in every scenario. I use motivational podcasts, quotes, and people to keep me focused on my end goal, no matter how small. Seeing other people’s successes and hearing their stories really lights a fire in my soul in how I want to change my life and live my truth.
Step 3: Accountability
This step is my own personal preference. For some odd reason I have massive anxiety about falling back on my word so accountability is a large part of my life. I don’t do anything without holding myself accountable. It sounds kind of weird to say, and I am not sure if I said it in the correct way, but if I set a goal I hold myself accountable to complete it. If I don’t have faith that I will complete it, I find a way to make it set in stone. Sometimes I just need to say it out loud, or write it down, to make it a reality. Take this blog for example, I had people trying to convince me to write a book based on all the crazy Monday’s I am constantly living. However, those stories wouldn’t be long enough to make into a book and eventually I settled on a blog. A week later I was researching platforms and purchasing a domain name. It is nowhere near perfect. I mean, I have always been terrible at writing. I have quit on almost every diary or journal I have ever started, and I skipped two weeks of posts on this blog. However, my end goal for this blog is to provide myself with an outlet to share my stories and find the silver-lining in my frequent unfortunate situations I call living in a perpetual Monday.
Do I claim to have perfect motivation? No. Do I claim to accomplish every goal I set? No. But I try. I aspire to do better and be better. These steps may not work for everyone, however, this has been working for me. These three oversimplified steps are how I attempt to find motivation: setting frequent goals (something to work towards), positivity (surrounding myself with people and things that help push me forward), and holding myself accountable to completing the goals I have set. If you have a different process to stay motivated and achieve your goals, please share your thoughts. Let me know, how do you stay motivated? Like, Share, and Comment below.